Kelsey Foster
Weiss reading response assignment
GWS 101, sec 301
10.29.09
The six main reasons Weiss gives that people resist being labeled feminist are as follows: feminists are perceived as radical, worry about societal rejection, feminists are called lesbians (whether or not they actually are), social norms of femininity and masculinity which do not allow for feminism, feminists as man-haters, and feminists having negative behavioral characteristics.
I feel like I am an exception to the rule. I have been fully aware of these negative ideas about feminists for a few years now. Throughout junior high and especially high school, I quickly and proudly identified myself as a feminist because I believed in equality for women. I didn’t necessarily know the full extent of what it meant to be a feminist, but I knew I was one. Part of me has always been the type to rebel for the sake of rebelling, so the fact that feminism is often seen as negative was a bonus for me. Even my own mother and older sister, the latter of whom identifies as a feminist, still buy into the stereotypes. When I told them I was signing up for the Gender and Women’s Studies certificate, they both reacted negatively. My mom has even asked me if I’m going to start coming home with my armpit hair braided or if I’m going to become a radical lesbian.
I’ll admit I do sometimes find it hard to believe that a feminist man isn’t gay, bisexual, or queer in some other way. When it comes to women feminists, however, I don’t necessarily have a picture in my mind of her being butch, like the article talked about. I do think that plenty of feminists are louder than many women, more outspoken and aggressive, and definitely more liberal. I feel like feminism in itself is a liberal concept. The idea of a conservative feminist is absurd. Plus, some of these supposedly negative characteristics of feminist women – like being outspoken – I think are actually positives.
The stereotypes of feminists being gay or lesbian show just how closely connected misogyny and homophobia are. People wouldn’t balk at being called gay if being gay wasn’t seen as a bad thing. Much of this and other stereotypes relating to ideas of femininity and masculinity come from the media. We need to see more outspoken, aggressive women and more feminist men on TV and film, and then as a whole our society will begin to be less sexist.
Everything Weiss wrote about feminism equaling societal rejection is so true. Identifying as a feminist can open you up to so much name-calling and derision, which – often effectively – shuts down discussion. When I was a freshmen in high school, my civics class held a mock presidential election. I was selected as the Democratic Party’s candidate, with my friend Ellie as my running mate. Whenever I talked about women’s rights or gender equality, the boys running as the moderate and Republican candidates would yell about sexism. No matter how we tried to patiently explain that feminism does not equal sexism, how it is in fact the opposite, we were shouted down or waved off and laughed at as radicals. (I think it’s interesting to note that our male teacher did nothing about this.)
These immature reactions are reflected in the right-wing politicians’ and conservative commentators’ rhetoric about feminists today. Perhaps they use bigger words and have a wider audience, but the idea is still the same. Feminism is bad because it hurts men in some way. When women aren’t submissive to men, they apparently undermine men’s masculinity. When a woman talk about equality between men and women, you really just hate men and are a lesbian.
This is why “gay” is a derogatory term. “Gay” equals rejection of male privilege. Either men are giving up their privilege by not taking the opportunity to dominate women, or women are rejecting dependence on men and the idea that men are superior.
My ideas and beliefs about feminism have not changed much through this class so far. I now notice more sexism in the world. If anything I even more strongly identify as a feminist because I now have a stronger and richer understanding of what feminism means.
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